Today's Dare: Whatever you put your time, energy, and mind into will become more important to you. It's hard to care for something you are not investing in. Along with restraining from negative comments, buy your spouse something that says " I was thinking of you today."
God's Word says: Be devoted to one another in brotherly love, give preference to one another in honor. Romans 12:10
Do nothing from selfishness or empty conceit, but with humility of mind regard one another as more important than yourselves. Philippians 2:3
I don't think the world would have a divorce rate problem in the Christian community or otherwise if people actually lived out Phil 2:3!
Subscribe to:
Post Comments (Atom)
Came across this scripture this morning after reading day 3 and thought I'd share it with you ladies:
ReplyDeleteMatthew 6:1
"Be careful to not do your 'acts of righteousness' before men,to be seen by them. If you do,you will have no reward from your Father in heaven.
What a great REMINDER for me/us do good acts and expect nothing in return from "man". Hope you girl's have a wonderful day!
Love it Michelle! Alicia and I were talking about that at Mom's study...that we are trying hard not to expect a certain response from our hubbies when get are nice or get them something. :) Thanks again!
ReplyDeleteI think the thing that stood out to me the most in the ch today is, "Why do we have such low standards for ourselves but high expectations for our mate?" For me this is SOOOO true. I often think, "can't he see I need help with the kids or why would he not help me clean up the kitchen." That is having an unfair expectation of him that I should not because I usually tell him to get out of the kitchen or if he tries helping me with the kids I am already mad that he did not help me sooner so I tell him, I GOT IT!
ReplyDeleteBUT I never jump at the chance to help him when he seems to be in a bind!
Wow-good point Stashia!! Thanks!
ReplyDeleteToday went great for me! I had planned to get Daniel the Red Bull Soda that he's wanted to try, but hasn't want to spend the money to buy it. I thought today's dare would be the perfect chance for me to get that for him. Well, after trying THREE different stores last night trying to find it, I settled on just a regular Red Bull and a candy bar. He's been watching what he eats, so I knew a snack like that would be a treat for him. I snuck it into his work truck last night while bring the groceries in, with a little note. I mentioned to Tara this morning that I was disappointed that Daniel hadn't sent me a text thanking me (oops, I know!) And then we talked about how we shouldn't seek praise for blessing our spouses-SO TRUE! Well, about an hour later, this is the text I received from him. "By the way, I think you may be the BEST wife ever. I love you" *blush* I was SO much more blessed by his words than my little candy bar and drink was for him...
One other point...I shared today during bible study that I really need to work on my communication skills. I tend to speak out of anger and "spew hatred" when I'm angry. I have already been so watchful of my tone, my sarcasm, and my choice of words towards Daniel and Gage. Granted, I haven't been upset with Daniel in these past 2 days, but even my sarcasm needs works. Anyway...just wanted to say that I can already tell this study is going to be a huge blessing to my marriage. Stashia even pointed out that my communication skills will surely benefit from doing this!! :o) So, thank you Dave for suggesting I become a part of it.
ARG! I spoke too soon. I'm having a hard time not saying anything negative or ugly right now. :( Time to pray...pray...pray...
ReplyDeleteWell........today was Productive but I did not get to "buy" a gift not even a a drink for Ben. I did however cook!!! Woohoo! Things always get so crazy around the house and we end up Eating Out A LOT. Not tonight though! I made homemade Lasagna (have not made that in a while!) and we all got to eat at the table for dinner.
ReplyDelete(Except for Quincy. He had a golf tournament and had already eaten dinner) I bathed the kids again tonight and actually did some laundry,put some fresh sheets on the bed and a nice down comforter on our bed. (The down comforter WAS Quincy's but he said he doesn't really care for it because it shows lint to easily. It's black! Who knew?) LOL
Tonight went well until my feelings got hurt.( Working on the whole MY feelings/emotions bit) I TRIED and I mean I REALLY TRIED to hold my tongue but satan got the best of me. I mouthed off and said something negative to Ben. UGH!!!!! I'm so mad at myself! I was doing REALLY well too! (If you don't know my Ben......he's very funny yet uses A LOT of Sarcasm. He's a wonderful man please don't get me wrong just sarcastic.Is there such a thing as good, funny sarcasm?)
It's hard for me NOT to WANT to say something back when HE uses sarcasm. This is going do be a huge struggle for me. Struggle as in Taming My Tongue as well as other thing's too but sarcasm will be at the top of the list. Just need to keep reminding myself IT'S NOT ABOUT ME!!! Life is not about ME! I/WE ARE HERE TO SERVE NOT BE SERVED.
Love you ladies! Thanks for sharing your journey. You encourage me by sharing and knowing/seeing we all have different struggles and life is not perfect.
"Life is like a box of chocolates. You never know what your gonna get" Forrest Gump
I loved this dare! I actually hadn't given Richard anything for Valentines (not even a card) b/c I got sick and didn't do anything for a few days. Today was my chance! It was so fun-I loved going to find him things: so Sam and I went to Target while Richard was at CHAT program in the morning. I got him a new coffee travel mug (a need b/c we just trashed his old one) and then some dark chocolate mini Reese's pb cups (we've both talked about them recently and if I happened by them, I'd grab them)which everyone sampled when dad opened the bag and some more cookies too. I knew he'd enjoy cookies since we don't really have them around the house. So fun and he will take the coffee mug today! Stashia, what you mentioned about expectations hits home. It's so true that we go on auto-pilot and assume they know exactly what we need/want and they just aren't built that way. I reread the ch this morning before posting and the thing that hits home for me is the paragraph immediately after that. It says " When a wife constantly complains about the time and energy she spends meeting the needs of her husband (and family), that's a sign of selfishness". OK, to me this is exactly how satan can get us sucked into what the "world" wants us to think and how the "world" wants us to act. We have to ask God for help and stand firm. We have to guard our thoughts big time b/c everything starts there!
ReplyDeleteAlso, Satan doesn't want us to know this part on the next page " Love also leads to inner joy. When you prioritize the well-being of your mate, there is a resulting fulfillment that cannot be duplicated by selfish actions. This is a benefit that God created and reserves for those who genuinely demonstrate love."
ReplyDeleteHOW AWESOME is our God!!!