Today's Dare: Contact your spouse sometime during the business of the day. Have NO agenda other than asking how he or she is doing and if there is anything you could do for them.
God's Word says: How precious also are your thoughts to me... How vast is the sum of them! If I should count them, they would outnumber the sand. Psalm 139:17-18
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okay, I have to confess that when I am reading each ch I have thought, "Oh, Chad really needs to read this part" It is hard to remember that this is about US/WIVES having a change of heart and learning how to love our husbands better!
ReplyDeleteAND this dare got me! When I read it last night I could not picture myself calling Chad and asking, how are you doing is there anything I can do for you. That is not something I have ever done, sad to say!
But I am glad to say that God gave me a very easy opportunity and the dare was done and it came very natural. When I asked if I could do anything for him he said “pray for my day”. Easy enough!
AW! That's great that is was so easy for you Stashia! ANd I have thought the same thing..."I wish Daniel was doing this too!!!" lol
ReplyDeleteI am having "trouble" with this dare b/c it's something I normally do every day. (Not bragging...just being honest). I generally call him around lunch time to ask how his morning has gone. But...I don't normally ask if there's anything I can do for him. So I guess that's where I'll have to learn. It does seem kind of awkward, but I'm praying that God will open up the right opportunity and the timing will be perfect!
I just want to tell you ladies how encouraging it is to get on here everyday and read the posts. It really reinforces some accountability for me. Michael is a very literal person. He hears exactly what you say. So you would think after 8 1/2 years of marriage I would get that and not expect him to pick up on hints or "just know" that I need something but I do. If I think about it I am making life a lot harder for me when I do that because it's pretty simple with him. Ask him and he's happy to help. Thankfully with grace I can keep trying to get it right. I did yesterday's dare and today's dare today. I read the ch yesterday but had a crazy day with the kids (Jax was home sick and Camden broke out in a head to toe rash) so I didn't make it out except to the dr. office. Today, however, I did. I bought him a couple of new shirts that I have here for him when he gets home from work. He HATES to shop and always appreciates some new clothes. Today I knew he had meetings all day so I sent him a text and got a message back from him. We normally talk several times a day so it was weird not to call him on the day that I was supposed to but thankfully with modern day phones we solved that another way.
ReplyDeleteI am with Rebecca, I love reading everyone's posts! This is my first time on the blog today though. I finally got my book, but didn't read the chapter until 515p and Chris was on his way home.
ReplyDeleteWe are like Alicia and Daniel. We talk, text, email everyday. (Usually text and email though.) Chris is fabulous at sending me a "How is your day?" text or email everyday. Today he sent me a "here's what I'm doing for lunch" text and I sent him a text back. Also, he didn't bring his workout clothes so I texted him early this morning about that too. He said he didn't want to get home that late so he was skipping his workout. :) Tomorrow I'm going to ask if there is something I can do for him because that is the part I don't do. I'll be praying for an opening because I agree that is an odd question.
Do y'all feel like your husbands are going to ask if you are doing the Love Dare? I feel like that is why this dare is odd. I feel like when I ask that Chris will say, "why?" :) These few days have really reinforced already how critical, hard, and grumpy I can be towards Chris. :(
I do have a praise though. Tonight 3-5 different things happened that normally make me pop off. The only thing that made me go negitive was smacking his food. LOL... Yes he does and yes it drives me nuts. ha! I didn't say anything, I just started coping him. We did laugh about it, but I was still negative. :*( The others had to do with bath time. Usually I get annoyed and then we don't have a fun time because I pout. But, tonight I held my tongue and we had a great bath time and Bible study time after that with the boys. Yea!!! :)
Thanks sweet friends!!! I love you all!
well, i went ahead and asked daniel if there was anything i could do for him tonight, and after a VERY odd look from him, he said "no, i don't think so. is there anything i can do for you?" i wonder if he thinks i was "fishing" for him to do something for me! i just laughed and told him to let me know if there was something i could do to help him out that i didn't want anything from him.
ReplyDeletei don't think he will think that i'm doing the love dare YET...but i've heard that this gets a lot more difficult, so he may pick up on it then. i'm not sure...i'm kind of anxious about that!!
i have to add, that the favorite part of my day is coming on here and reading everyone's responses. i LOVE it!! keep up the great work loving your families and encouraging your hubbies!
this ch seemed more about communication than thoughtfulness but I love this line: loving thoughts precede loving actions. It totally made me realize that men and women are wired so differently and I expect WAY TOO MUCH from Richard! I've heard it for a long time, but somehow reading the ch made much more since with the examples used. It is like they used me or some form of me as the woman in this. I dislike that we are wired so relationally (and emotionally) too. But I'm not going to question God about that, He definitely knows what is best and I have to completely trust in that OR I have nothing. Back to the dare of the day, Richard and I usually talk once during the day, but I was able to call him and leave him a message. It was fun and I feel like I'm smiling more these days so I probably sound more delightful to his ears! Praise God! Unlike some of you, I ask him if there is anything I can do for him during the day occasionally already (do not pat me on the back or anything!). That is just me and him, part of what we do.
ReplyDelete1st dare that was actually easy for me! I usually ask been if there is anything I can do for him or if he needs anything. HOWEVER,Ben stayed home from work with pink eye so I was not able to call him at work. So,through out the day while I'm shuttle kids back and forth I had some down time (20 minutes) to stop at T.J Max. I told him I was stopping there to look for a laptop case for me but I REALLY was going to make up for the dare that I was to purchase something. So I kinda combined 2 dares together. I purchased Ben some much needed socks and underwear. Yes ladies I bought some undies for my honey and I'm not ashamed to tell you ;) Hahaha!
ReplyDeleteSince Ben had stayed home from work this gave him a chance to see how much running around I do shuttling kids back and forth and not really getting down time for myself. Ben knew I wanted to run and told me that he would pick Liam up from school at 3:pm and then pick Quincy up from school at 3:30pm bring him home so he could get dressed for a Debate Prelim and then take him back up to the high school, so I could get my run in before it got too late.
What a great gift in return for the changes he (being Ben) noticing that I am making/made in the past few days.
Don't get me wrong ladies it's still hard but I am SEEING the LIGHT at the end of that tunnel . God speed my sweet sister's in Christ!