Today's Dare: Talk with your spouse about establishing healthy rules of engagement. If your mate is not ready for this, then write out your own rules to "fight" by. Resolve to abide by them when the next disagreement occurs.
God's Word says: If a house is divided against itself, that house will not be able to stand. Mark 3:25
A gentle answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger Proverbs 15:1
Be of the same mind toward one another Romans 12:16
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Our morning fit this dare! We have had rules set in place for a long time now but that does not mean we always use them. I will say that it is extremely helpful if you do have some guidelines to "fight" by. Keep them sweet and simple, just like the book! And most of our rules are the ones in the book. If it is a big disagreement we use “The Floor” method. If you don’t know what that is and you would like to hear about it I will gladly tell you. It has helped us through some big fights.
ReplyDeleteAfter today’s fight I felt very defeated because I have been trying so hard to be a loving wife! After it was all said and done I had to apologize for interrupting him and making it seem like it was his fault. And after that he shared some things he needs to work on too! So all in all it was good.
Ben is out of town hunting so this gives me a chance to really think about this. I will have to share results later.
ReplyDeleteI was out of town for most of Saturday, but I'm sure a fight will rear its ugly self eventually. Sad to say! We need to make rules. We've discussed rules before, but never really "made them".
ReplyDeleteWe don't have any rules, but after a not-so-pretty arguement last night, we NEED them. Wait...scratch that....I need them. Daniel is (usually) a very fair fighter. Me, on the other hand, not so much. :( I tried to talk to him about making rules and he said he didn't think I'd ever learn to fight fair, that it's just part of my personality. OUCH!!! Maybe later when we aren't both heated, we can try talking about it again and figure out something. I REALLY need to learn how to control my tongue when we argue. *sigh*
ReplyDeleteOk so I wrote these out but we STILL have yet to discuss them but I'm putting them into practice on my end until it happens.
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