The first part of this dare is fairly simple. Although love is communicated in a number of ways, our words often reflect the condition of our heart. For the next day, resolve to demonstrate patience and to say nothing negative to your spouse at all. If the temptation arises, choose not to say anything. It's better to hold your tongue than to say something you'll regret.
The Bible says: Be completely humble and gentle; be patient, bearing with one another in love Ephesians 4:2
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One thing I think needs to be added to this dare is your tone of voice, even if you do feel like what you are saying is not negative it is how you say it!
ReplyDeleteI may be holding my tongue a lot!!! I need an attitude adjustment! :)
Yea and I might need to add eye looks. I can hold my tongue and still say a lot with my looks. lol.
ReplyDeleteI need to add body language in general. I can get really grumpy and rude even when I don't speak...especially when I am doing dishes and can slam doors, on accident of course. LOL. But, I have done great today. Oh wait, I haven't talked to Chris other than good morning and prayer time. :)
ReplyDeleteOkay ladies! Today has been very hard for me. Last time i did this (day 1) It was a success but today had been a struggle. Well,I am "hormonal". Ugh!!! Well here is what happened tonight I went to pick up dinner (barbeque from Baker's in Rowlett) Well,I get home and take everything out and I am then told that it's not enough. (The kids don't ever each much and I felt I ordered enough for Ben and Quincy) I got a baked potato so I was not eating what they had.
ReplyDeleteNormally I would probably say something sarcastic back to Ben but I held my tongue & offered him my baked potato.
My feelings were hurt (remember I'm hormonal) and it's not like I "cooked" the meal but I still got upset.It may sound like something silly to complain about but God made good on his promise. ANd what I mean by that is 15 minutes later Ben came and apologized for his comment (not something that happens often when it comes to things such as these) but he did and i accepted his apology. It was strange for me to hear my husband apologize for something as silly as that. I still feel as if my attitude after the incident maybe manipulated the situation by "showing" my emotions. I'm asking for prayer that I will not go through any spiritual warfare when it comes to the Lord revealing himself to me. (For those of you who don't know, this (spiritual warfare) was something I struggled with after returning from a mission trip to Africa in June) I know God is in control and He will guide each and everyone of us through this journey.
By the way I know that this blog is to post our day/struggles and not grip so I'm NOT griping just sharing ;)
ReplyDeleteDay 1 was a success for me! I didn't really have any situations where Daniel outright annoyed me or gave me the opportunity to be ugly to him. But I think it's because I kept thinking about what I read this morning. Every time I wanted to be snipy with him, I was reminded of the verses I read this morning. It was so good for me to see how often I am disrespectful to him by my little remarks, eye rolls, or SIGHS that I always feel like are harmless. This is going to be an awesome study!! :)
ReplyDeleteok, first off Kudos to all of you b/c it was so awesome for me to log on this morning and find all your comments! Some of you know, I'm getting over a nasty urinary tract infection and sinus/throat infection that hit me really hard this weekend. Yesterday was my first day at home with the kids since I got sick-you can imagine how many times I said Philippians 4:19 during the day! God does answer our call-I did definitely have a couple of slips with the kids but I'm learning I've got to work on everything you guys mentioned: my body language and tone. I'm beginning to realize in all things, I just need to be patient because seriously, they are only 5 and 3 years old not 15 and 13! I need to truly right James 1:19 on my heart: Everyone MUST be quick to hear, slow to speak and slow to anger. I don't really think I reach anger, but I can tread somewhere in between and that isn't patient or loving AND I really can't imagine what they are thinking in their little minds. As far as my being patient with Richard, God has totally blessed this. It is no problem! God is so good!!!!
ReplyDeleteDavelyn I need some of your patience ;) I have the 16 year old and 2 preschoolers does that count? Hahaha!
ReplyDeleteMonday was very tough for me. I had read the night before, so I knew what I was supposed to do, but I failed. My goal was to start fresh on Tuesday. Yesterday and today I have been so much better with the negative words!!!
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